SUNNYBANK HILLS, Australia, Dec. 9, 2009 — These days, it's common knowledge that one out of every two marriages will end in divorce. And yet, we are still getting married. In some countries such as Australia the number of marriages is actually on the rise.
It is understandable that people enter into a serious partnership like marriage with the best of intentions. People actually believe that the fairy tale can be real, that together they'll beat the odds and be part of the 50% of marriages that succeed. But the reality is that without help, divorce is a very likely outcome, and with it the associated pain and costs.
One failed marriage is very easy to "chalk up to experience." Many divorced couples use phrases like, "we married too young," "he wasn't who I thought he was," or that old favourite, "I won't make that mistake again." But again statistics show that when we do remarry, the odds are worse than before. A staggering 67% of second marriages in the United States will end in divorce, and 74% of third marriages will fail.
In his new book, "Relationships Made Simple: For Couples," Australian licensed psychologist Andrew Van Der Reest, gives simple methods to turn things around. Van Der Reest puts it this way: "These figures show that rather than learning from the mistakes in our first marriage, we still don't know how to be happily married. We believe our problems are 'people specific,' (i.e.: I married a jerk). We blame people rather than try to understand that 'how we do our relationship' is the real problem."
During his career in counseling couples, families and working with organizations, Van Der Reest had the privilege of working on different relationship situations. Yet, however different each situation was, one common fact stood out. Van Der Reest believes that relationships — whether at home, work, or play — are of fundamental importance to our lives, and doing them well is one of the keys to happiness and success.
At the core of Van Der Reest's approach is the Relationship Banking concept.
"Like it or not, we all keep accounts for each person we have a relationship with, and their account balance goes up or down depending on what they say or do," says Van Der Reest.
A healthy account means that the person is in credit, and that "Happily Ever After" is within reach. An unhealthy account means that they're seriously in debt, and divorce may start to look like a good option.
"Relationships Made Simple: For Couples" explains Relationship Banking in an easy-to-understand, enjoyable and, above all, implementable format. The key is implementation. For those who've been searching for answers for some time, it's a refreshingly simple and effective approach that really works. For those who are just starting to feel doubt, "Relationships Made Simple: For Couples" is a down-to-earth book that can be read over one weekend or in a few lunch breaks. Such is its success that many couples have already found their key to "Happily Ever After."
To purchase "Relationships Made Simple: For Couples" and learn more about Andrew Van Der Reest, visit his website at http://www.relationshipsmadesimple.com.
"Relationships Made Simple: For Couples" can also be purchased from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million and other independent bookstores in the U.S.A.
About the Author
Andrew Van Der Reest was born in Australia. He spent his adolescent and teenage years in Europe: five years in Holland and five in Germany. He completed his degree at Sydney University Australia in the mid 80s and is a licensed psychologist. He has spent many years assisting people through counseling to build strong, healthy relationships. During this time, Van Der Reest studied, researched and ultimately developed methodologies that benefit couples, families and workplaces, allowing them to better understand and dramatically improve their relationships — simply! Van Der Reest and his wife Yolanda have been successfully married for over 20 years. They have two young adult sons and live in beautiful and sunny Queensland, Australia. "Relationships Made Simple: For Couples" is the first in a planned series of books. Learn more at http://www.relationshipsmadesimple.com.
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